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Single With A Bae: Speak SILENTLY


Who hates conflict is ME.

Who hates to be wrong is me.

Who hates to explain herself is ME.

Who hates to apologize is me.

Who has had to learn some humility is ME.

We believe, with everything in us, that women are naturally the smarter and wiser one of the two. Studies have shown that girls mature faster than guys...and for that one reason, we tend to feel that we are on the right side of conflict EVERY time. I don't completely disagree with that assumption either. However, it has been proven in my life that sometimes bae is right while I am residing all the way in the wrong.

You know what usually makes me wrong, though? Do you really want to know? What usually makes me wrong is my delivery of what I know is right or not resting until I have gotten my point across. Not what I say but how I say it and the timing of what I'm saying tends to be wrong from time to time.

What makes me wrong many times is that I don't trust my silence to speak well enough for me.

Sometimes the best answer to conflict is no answer. I believe that we have to give God room to make a situation right. However, as long as we are talking hoping to get Bae's attention...God is sitting back doing nothing because we've decided we can do his job.

Humility is quiet.

Arrogance is loud.

With that, I just believe that God can get his attention BEST when we act in humility...get somewhere and be quiet. EVEN IF YOU HAVEN'T DONE ANYTHING WRONG! EVEN IF HE IS DEAD WRONG! We can only control ourselves...and it is profitable to act in a way that will attract God's favor on our lives and also our situation/relationship...whatever you wanna call it.

I often consider Mary when she had to tell Joseph that she was pregnant; yet she was a "virgin". Can you imagine how bad it LOOKED? Can you imagine how Joseph probably couldn't stop looking at her with the side eye? Can you imagine if it were YOU in Mary's shoes? I mean, if it were me...I would have been crying and pleading with Joseph to believe me even if it looked bad. Mary did not do all of that.

Matthew 1:18-20

....but before they married, Mary realized that she was pregnant by the Holy Spirit. Her husband Joseph was an honorable man and did not want to disgrace her publicly. So he decided to break the marriage agreement with her secretly. JOSEPH HAD THIS IN MIND when an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream. The angel said to him, don't be afraid to take Mary as your wife. She is pregnant by the Holy Spirit.

I wonder if Joseph could have heard from the angels if Mary was talking too much trying to plead her case... Truth is: after Joseph heard from the angels on Mary's behalf, it didn't matter what he had in mind. What mattered was that the truth had been revealed to him, but he had to be able to hear it...

What I'm trying to say in this blog is sometimes we talk too much. When we talk too much we get ourselves in bigger messes. Let God talk for you. Cause if bae is the one who is going to take you all the way, then God will ALWAYS speak up for you. And bae will listen.

Prayer: God...help us to trust you fully, especially in those uncomfortable moments of conflict. When we don't know what is next, help us to know that whatever happens next is in your hands. I come against the spirit that wants us to try controlling each moment of our lives. I release a calmness over us. Help the woman reading this and the woman writing this to trust your word. Remind us that you cannot lie. Amen.


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